The recent donglegate debacle brings to light a poignant issue relevant to the programming community, the medical community, and the human community in general — that misunderstanding and miscommunication could easily cause a small problem to escalate out of control:
A male conference participant makes a silly joke to his friend. A female participant overhears this and finds it offensive. She publicly criticizes the behavior, posting his photograph to some 10000+ Twitter followers. The male participant is fired from his job. Commenters make hateful statements about the female participant, and anons threaten to attack her company. She is fired as well.
This is not about men, women, or anons; nor is it about sexism or dongle size. Because of inappropriate reactions to what began as an inappropriate joke, two people are out of jobs and there is much outrage in the community. There are better ways to handle situations like this. Let’s always try to be tactful, give each other the benefit of the doubt, and treat fellow humans with respect.




